Steps To Save A Marriage When Only One Spouse Wants To Save It

What do we do when we are the only one spouse that wants to save the marriage? There are many ways to save a marriage if both parties work together to make the marriage work, but what are ways to save a marriage if my other partner does not want to?

While it may seem almost impossible to think that a marriage can be saved through the efforts of a single spouse especially in cases where the other has little or no motivation to try and fix the relationship, or worse, when he or she is determined to end it, let us start off by being positive emotionally and find realistic ways to save the marriage.

The odds are not overwhelmingly against reconciliation, unlike what so many are led to believe.

The first step for the spouse trying to make things right is to look at what is most important in our lives for the couple. Clear your mind of the negative feelings and look at the relationship in the right perspective. Whether it be years, months, or a matter of weeks, remember all the important moments that the couple has shared moments of happiness and passion together.

Communicate your thoughts kindly. There are too many couples guilty of this mistake to believe and expect their spouse to know what they are thinking, to recognize their wants, needs, issues and such, and act accordingly. Nobody can read the other person's mind even if you have been together for the last 20 years. Communicate and express yourself by letting the other person know your feelings rather that your demands and rights.

If there is a need look at oneself for change. It is always easy to blame the other party and demand the rightful change in the other party without changing our attitudes and behavior first. Look at oneself and see if there are things that are irritants to the other party and make plans to change that behavior or habit. Tell your spouse that you are sorry and are making that change to save the marriage. We cannot expect our other spouse to change without first changing ourselves first.

Get support from friends, counselors, pastors and relatives. Help is a call away whether it may be a credible or professional advice from a save marriage agency.

Through patience and determination and most importantly prayer to God in faith, efforts of one spouse can turn a bad marriage around. With this, despite the 50-50 division in power, there will be no question whose side has the overwhelming advantage in a troubled marriage.